Posts by Amie Les JW

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Hard time coping with shunning

by bsand20 in

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it's almost 1am and i can't sleep...again.

i hate to think the organization is still taking my sleep from me 16 years later but i can't help it.

i run a page on social media for ex jw support and advice and i'm usually there helping others but it definitely takes a toll on me when i'm having to argue and disprove jws that troll my page.

Amie Les JW

Hi,

I had a similar fb issue. And one day, after a vodka and coke at 1pm I just thought f-it! and I blocked or deleted or whatever you call it. It was theraputic. Facebook doesn't mean she is your friend. It is a form of communication media. And yes, it might feel like the last link that you have, but like you said it's all on her terms. If you can keep the fb friend and have it on your terms also- post on her wall- make comments (that her friends and family will see) then fine, it's balanced, but if you are keeping it in the hope that it will mean something to her then you are ignoring your needs- and that is what will send you crazy.

xx AMie

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Disfellowshipped for 3 years. One JW still persistent I will return some day...

by TimothyTr in

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friends

for some reason i am not able to log in to my account so i have created this one instead.. as many of you may know i am a disfellowshipped gay.

here was my story for those who dont:.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/beliefs/215019/1/living-as-a-gay-jehovahs-witness-my-story#.u_mrcvlduvk.

Amie Les JW

Hi,

I usually post over on JWR, but I lurk here sometimes, and your question was a good one I just had to weigh in, hope you don't mind.

Your question was- what should you do?

So, if you are thinking that you can remain friends and she will learn ttatt then you have to approach what she is saying at moments of less intensity- I'm sure you've read Hassan and how he talks about engaging the authentic self. At moments when she is crying like that she is totally in the cult mind. But, obvioulsy, she is attached to you and that is a real connection- so i'd persue that. Especially when she says she can't live in paradise without you- that is a bold statement. Yes, it's blackmail, and it's controlling, but man-o-man it's a bold statement against Jehovah's provisions.

So yes, she's messed up. The real question is can you stick around near her messyness?

xx Amie

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Gay MS??

by andysmiles in

about me, i am being raised in a jw family.

all of my family expect for one aunt, who had left but not disfellowedshiped thankly, are in jw.

my father is an elder and so is my grandfather.

Amie Les JW

Hi, I'm a year into my fade. I don't go to the meetings anymore, but I found it so hard when I did, because of there being so many pretty sista's. Sometimes I would literally feel like my brain was being split in two.

I can honestly say that the best thing for me has been to stay away from the meetings, not just based on my sexuality, but also just my happiness and my peace of mind.

My best jwfriend visited me the other day and said how appalled she was that there was a standing ovation after some 'gay' scene in a play that she saw. She loved the play she just thought that ruined it. I was speechless.

I read somewhere that in an anonymous survey 1 in 3 men identify with being attracted to other men. I kind of looked around the hall and that actually made me feel better, because I found that 1 in 3 brothers and sisters are a lot messed up with nerve problems or anxiety- and I thought that the secrets that they are keeping are probably making them sicker. I just knew I didn't want to end up like them... repressed and unhappy.

good luck on your journey

xAmie

www.lesbianjw.blogspot.com